A huge thank you to everyone for your lovely messages and support. It saddens me so much that this is such a common thing - I wouldn't wish it on anyone, however I think you can only know the pain if you have gone through it yourself and I am so glad there is this kind of support available.
Hi cat, so sorry for the loss of your little one...
I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks in Nov last year and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through, so sending you a big
As all the others have said, take all the time you need and take care of yourself..
Im so sorry that no one has remembered this sad but significant time in your life...
When my edd came around I was fortunate that I was pg and it made the time that little bit easier, that said only one person remembered and asked how I was.(and she had previously had a loss also) On that day I planted a special little shrub that has beautiful pink star shaped flowers and each year it flowers from about Jan to August ( bub was due in July ) so its in flower for when bubs birthday would have been.
I know its hard now but in time it will get easier and I hope you dont have to wait too much longer to get that much wanted
xxx
I get upset sometimes when my family forgets my DD EDD( 25 Nov 05) but then I realise they may not know what to say. Since our loss I have gone on to have another baby girl and am currently PG. I wish I could tell you that the paranoia has got better but for me it hasnt.When I reach 26 weeks I will feel better as the baby has a fighting chance.
I have planted a rose in my garden called angels face in her memory. It has the most beautiful shade of pink/ purple and the fragrance is heavenly.
Good luck with your future BFP. Im sure everything will be fine
Dear Girls,
My heart goes out to all of you.
I am convinced that no-one understands the link between an expected baby and mum. I lost my Tonya at full term, still born with anencephaly on 5 Nov 1973.
I came across this site today as I was searching for info as my daughter-in-law is going for 10 week tests for their 3rd child. Even when the tests are OK, I have been on tenterhooks until they are born for both my children and my grandchildren.
Every year I remember Tonya's birthday, she would have been 35 last Nov. I grieved for many, many years until I realised that that a lot of it was due to the fact in those days there was no recognition - no birth certificate, no death certificate, and yet because she was full term I had to have a burial!
Fortunately Qld has changed its laws and we now have a birth & death cerficate. I had overlooked the important fact that my husband had her name tattooed back in 1975 along with our 2nd child - another girl born in Dec 1974. He added our son's name in Nov 1976 when he was born.
Waiting for test results are harrowing, our son was well and truly kicking when we finally got the all clear for him. I was kinda scared to bond to him in case I had to lose him. That was extremely stressful.
Yes, many people are too scared to bring up the subject because they don't know how and they are scared of upsetting you. You need to talk about your baby to your families - there may be silence at first again because they don't know what to say, but persevere. I have and now it is accepted. My neice actually crossed stitched Tonya's name and a little angel bear on a family tree quilt for my mum (her grandmother).
Our little angels will always be special and remembered to us their mums.
Lotsa luvs to you all
I admire you all for hanging in there
Tonya's Mum
I had very early miscarriage.. about 7wks and I still think 'my baby would be 9 this May' I have also recently lost twins at 12 days old.. They were born at 24wks.. They would have been due March 11 this year.. I am dreading the day..
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. Im sure everything will be fine
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