I've had two d&Cs and the rest natural. FWIW, I found the d&cs easier to cope with emotionally than the natural miscarriages, but that's just me and everyone is different.

There is no need to feel selfish. Its your body and right now you're going through hell so whatever it is that you need to do to make your world a little better is right for you.

I found my girls the greatest comfort after my losses too. Hold her tight and enjoy those cuddles. Take care