Dear Tammy,

I know exactly how you feel. I had a miscarriage last week. I was 12 weeks along and had just told all the family.

My pregnancy was also unplanned but definately wanted. I think the worst part was that the scan showed it had stopped developing around six weeks, I just didn't start to miscarry until later. I had the week off work and everyone has been great but I don't think there is anything anyone can say to make you feel better. One of my worst feelings is that I was letting everyone down because all the grandparents were over the moon.

My doctor said physicyall everything is fine and it's just one of those things that happens - apprently the odds for my age group are 1 in 5.

At the moment my worst fear is this will happen again - thinking everything is OK when really it was all over around the same time I found out.

Right now I am just reminding myself of the large number of women I know that have miscarried and now have healthy babies.

I hope you start to feel better

Beck