Fisrttimer,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

I have had the same experience to what you are going through, i was having my routine 12week ultrasound when i was dealt the terrible news that my little baby ,whom my DH and i longed for had stopped growing at 10w2d....nothing could have prepared me for what we had just been told...and i do remember feeling the same way you do.
I had a D&C that same night as i couldn't stand the thought of waiting for my body to miscarry naturally.......and in a way i was hoping they had made a terrible mistake and i would go back and find everything to be ok.

Sorry for the ramble, i haven't really answered your question properly.
Thinking of you.Leah