I think the thing to keep in mind is everyone deals with death differently. I was watching John Edwards last night & he made a good comment about the "idiot zone" that surrounds the death of a love one. People who don't know what to say, how to act etc enter the idiot zone & often say they wrong thing. Not because they don't care, but simply because they don't know what to say or how to deal with it.

I too would encourage him to go into rehab. 10 days from you & the kids isn't a big deal. I think he is using it as an excuse.