Hi toomanyshoes,

I had difficulties conceiving again on top of a missed m/c and I found myself avoiding pg women and those who I thought might be pg as well for quite some time after my m/c I just could not cope with being around them - don't get me wrong I was happy for them, but it just made me sadder for myself KWIM?

Those that knew about my loss I just told the truth to if I didn't feel up to a gathering, and those that didn't I made up a story to get out of it. I did feel bad about it, but I think in the end you have to look after yourself and do whatever you think is best for yourself. I would have hated to turn into a blubbering mess at some gathering because I could not handle it. And if you know that you will have comments made to you, well I would not be putting myself through that.

Maybe if you feel really bad though, you could just show up for a while and leave early? Can DH have a quiet word to his family about it at all?

Sorry probably not much help really but I feel your pain