Well the one SIL I get along with (at times) is coming down in a couple of weeks and has organised a BBQ at her sisters place, shes due in August with her 2nd and I'm pretty sure its going to turn into part baby shower aswell.

I really dont wanna go DH's whole family kinda suck at being comforting and I know the fact shes pregnant again with a wonderful pregnancy is going to be thrown in my face. And more snide remarks will be made about my 3 m/c's and my complicated pregnancies.

a. after loss did you try to avoid pregnant people, if so for how long and how did you get out of having to see them?

b. if you didnt avoid people how did you feel afterwards?

I feel bad that I dont want to go the BBQ, if i knew it wasnt going to turn part baby shower i think i would be fine. argh i dont know!