I'd love to know why life is so cruel too - we've been trying and not trying to conceive over the last ten years. we have two sons, now aged 15 and 10, and PCOS. a close family friend was killed in sept, that was really hard to cope with, then i fell pregnant a few weeks later, we all thought here is the light at the end of the tunnel, then last thursday i began to spot, (i had done this with my 2nd son as well), hoped it was just the same i was 8 weeks, i had an ultrasound on the friday, which showed up the size of a 6 week old, but we still had a heartbeat. I miscarried sunday morn. I have a friend who is about 3 weeks ahead of me, yet to see her, but i'm happy for her, just sad for us