Thanks mummacassdy. I have tears in my eyes. I can't imagine what it'd be like to lose a baby in any way. I had a termination 7 years ago when I was 17 & I still think about it. And that was something I did by choice - well kind of. My parents pushed me to do it.
I did see her on Saturday, but I think it was all to fresh for her to see me with my belly as she didn't speak to me & left 5 minutes after I showed up - I was at work at the pub & she was there for an 80th. She's not a close friend, but living in a town of around 100 - 200 people & being pregnant at the same time we talked babies every time we saw each other. I know she has close friends around her & if she wants to avoid me for now thats fine by me. I don't want her hurting anymore than she would already be. I just hope she is OK soon.

I know she doesn't hate me or wish bad things on me, but I will leave it up to her. Then I will ask her how she is. I'm not planning to say anything about Bub unless she asks first. If she says 'how was the u/s', or 'hows things going' Then I will tell her. I won't avoid it if she brings it up, but I don't want to push her yet.