Is this harsh?

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hi, im currently going threw this with my 3 yo, i know as a kid a year is a big deal, but ive been trying for a long time on and off with him to, were finaly almost there now, thought id give you a few suggestions that have worked this last time with us.

he realy wants to go to kindy, have drilled into his head no kindy kids have nappys, they all go to the toilet.

he was to scared for a little bit, so i let him go wee in the bottom of the shower as he did mention about falling in, (also alot easier to clean then the floor!!) helped him to realise it was a good thing to not go in a nappy or his pants. (he now uses the shower if the toilet isnt free, but were getting there)

df found this cool invention at k-mart or target it is a bit of plastic on a suction cup, with a big black spot on the bottom, the spot is heat sensitive, so when pee hits it, a picture is revealed, df had to show him quiet a few times how it worked, and it has taken him a month to be able to "hit and reveal" the fpicture, but he done it the other day, on his own, and was very pleased!

we have a stool in the loo so he can stand on it and not have to be on tip-toes

i will not put a night nappy on him untill he is asleep. some mornings i take it off befor he wakes else it is like trying to catch a monkey to get it off.

i caught him peeing on a tree at the park today, was pleased he didnt go in his pants and congradulated him for that, but told him next time tell me and we will find a loo.
hope this helps, and good luck! your doing the right thing taking the "harsh" approch, just dont give up, and he WILL get the pic!!!

ETA: you will have trouble finding a potty big enough, his bum might fit on them, but the bowl will probably be to small for his wee or poo.