Thanks for all the replies.. I was good to get views from both sides.. I guess it was just being on the receiving end of comments like that, really upset me because as I said, prematurity is so scary..

I guess a lot of people wouldn't know just how bad it can be (maybe?) and I agree that it is still important to be congratulated on the birth.. I had more sympathy cards than congratulations.. I am not sure how they are doing, the friend who put the status up is in a different state to her cousin and his wife, and she is also dealing with her ill dad.

ETA: Just stalked FB and there is a pic of bub on there.. She is tiny and on CPAP.