Helena,
OMG! You sound as though you are really hurting. You poor thing. I wouldn't talk to that person either. Did he think he was helping??? Goodness me, it's hard enough, the journey of a prem baby, without added pressure.

If I could I would keep my babies at home for as long as possible. My babies have trouble with their lungs, and I don't feel ok leaving them in a childcare centre at this stage and they are 18 months old!
You have to do what is right for you and Ava. You are a wonderful Mum because you have Avas best interests at heart.