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[Melssy86]

I might be pg had slight spotting on Mon then nothing since.
But its just making me realize how s#!@ scared I am of having another premi.
With Ds i had problems from 20 weeks. He ended up staying put until 31 weeks.
I don't know how i could handle a pg similar and running after ds.
I don't want him to miss out and i didn't cope well when he was born.
All i can think about is what could happen.
I know i should be over the moon if i do get pg. but i think im going to freak out until i get past ds's gestation (if i am pg)
How am i supposed to do it?
And i know its not huge compared to all the struggles others have been/ are going through.

[Early Kids]

Hugs x

I had two different pregnancies which resulted in pre-term delivery. I was terrified of things going wrong, but the pregnancy with DS2 was so different, with DS1 I had ms, bleeding and other issues. With DS2 I had virtually no ms, no bleeding and no PPROM He just came.

I wish you all the very best xx


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[shazzi]

Totally understandable.

With DS I was anxious, but did not realise how much until the first hospital appt. As soon as i saw the midwife i burst into tears. She got me an appt with the same counsellor i saw while DD was in NICU. I was then referred to another counsellor who still keeps in touch even though DS is 6 months. It really helped talk out my fears and anxieties throughout the pregnancy. And it helped me deal with the experience I had with DD and my extreme separation anxieties with her.

I wish now that i had been talking to someone before I got pregnat again .

You will find a way to manage those fears if you are pregnant.

Funnily enough I ended up in hospital one day over DD's gestation with similar symptoms and they were almost going to do an emergency c-section under general at 30wks. Well it was not funny really, but luckily it was not necessary and I went on to go in to labour on my due date. But that time in hospital made me realise I would and could cope if that happened due to the wonderful DD I had waiting for me at home.

All the best and let us know what happens.

xx

[Sally2]

It's a tough situation, as much as you long for the next baby & hope for a beautiful, full term, take home immediately baby, the fears can be completely overwhelming.

When we decided to TTC after DS1's traumatic birth & NICU time, I was absolutely beside myself with fear that we would have another premmie & I told myself that I couldn't cope if it happened.

Well, at 23 weeks when Sal got put onto bedrest until DS2 was born at 34 weeks & then until he came home, I managed to do it. You learn lessons about yourself & what you could cope with during the first experience, so I knew I couldn't cope with trying to work as well as juggle a premmie/my partner in hospital plus raise our then one year old. So I quit. We lived off our credit card & centrelink, stopped the mortgage & took as much pressure off as we could & we did it.

You can do it again if you have to, but lots and lots of premmie mums go on to have full termers & cruisy pregnancies. You will find ways to cope, because you have already proved how strong you already are! See counsellors, talk to friends, join support groups, do whatever you need to get through because these babies are so worth it in the end!

Good luck babe, crossing my fingers & toes for you!

[Melssy86]

Thanks ladies
Im starting to feel a bit better about it all. Still scared but will be ok.
I still have no Af but no bfp yet dr thinks i o'd late so i have to wait another week before he will do a blood test. In the meantime he has me speaking to a Councillor.
I just feel so overwhelmed. Maybe it isnt the best time to be pg but I really do want another bub its hard to put it into words.
Dh is worse then i am as he had to go between me and Ds for the first week.
I think i just freaked a little. Will update later.
Mel

[shazzi]

HI Mel,

I am glad you are starting to feel better. It is good that you are speaking to a counsellor. Perhaps your DH should too. Although my DH was not interested in talking about his feelings from that time.

And i think we all freak out at times. I still dread getting AF back, (thankfully it has not returned yet), as I do not want to see blood. Wierd as i learnt to cope with it before my second child and I have "relapsed"...

[nickers]

if it gives you any hope i went on to have my second son at 38+3 wks after my first son was born at 33+3 wks.
I was nervous throughout the pregnancy with the unknown, and because it was PROM i had its one of those things u dont see creeping up it just happens.
Now i am pregnant with my 3rd, i have been a lot less stressed because i have been FT once already, i am nearing ds1's gestation and when i had prom (32+5 prom and born at 33+3) so i am a bit on edge at the moment but i'm hoping i can go FT again. i hope you find out either way if you are pg or not

[Melssy86]

I still dont know. The dr wants me to wait until next week for bloods but he wants to go by longest cycle which was 36 days but ive only had a cycle that long once. Most are around 33 days. I guess its not that huge of a difference. But i would be 13 dpo and still no +