Am i being played?

[SamiH]

I have stumbled across this thread a couple of times now and haven't posted - because I will be really honest - I think it should have been dropped after the first week or two.

I feel cross at you Josh cos it seems that even after all these weeks and continuous deceptions, you are still there with her in some capacity.

If you want to genuinely get her help, it doesn't take weeks to do it - or if you want a definitive answer, if she conceived in March a HPT would def be positive if preg is viable and she wouldn't be opposed to an ultrasound or blood test to prove it to you if she is thinking that will keep you next to her side.

make your mind up what you are doing and take some action and move on with your life - whichever way that may be.

Sorry to be so frank and honest, but I don't think you should be encouraged to continue with this harmful charade.

Good luck!

[gumnutbaby]

Sami, I see where you are coming from but I think you are being too harsh. Perhaps Josh hasn't dealt with anything like this before and often these issues don't just go away after "the first week or two". So it may be beyond his control, there is so much at stake here for him and this girl who may be pg (but I'm not convinced she is, based on what Josh has told us here). The handling of this situation can become even more complex depending on the severity of her mental health issues.

[SamiH]

Gumnut - I respect your thoughts and opinions too - throughout my working life I have dealt with alot of mental health/disease issues (not mine, other peoples/staff/family members), and they need help earlier rather than later - that is what I was getting at.

I know things can take longer than a week or two to sort out - that is not what I said - I was referring to the thread when I wrote that meaning ?ctions"I was trying to encourage Josh to avoid wasting any more time, decide on some action and follow through.

I understand we all have our opinions - probably why I didn't post when I have seen this previously as I did not want people to criticise my opinion - but so be it!

[gumnutbaby]

It may well be that the issue has been dealt with to some extent and this girl is getting treatment but he just hasn't been back? I hope this is the case.

[sushee]

Maybe_played (josh) has been online many times since his last post but has chosen not to continue contributing to this thread. I expect it is because it has been made clear from the advice of many members here that his gf is in all probability not pregnant, or if she is pregnant, then not to him.

Her mental state is probably something we should not be discussing as we only have the OP's version of events.

I do believe this thread has run its course now, so will close it. If anyone has any issues with this, please contact me directly.