Ok so it seems i am on my own so i will tell you how my weekend went.
DH and i went to sydney to catch up with friends and family and to do some BDay shopping for my son who is 18 on saturday we got some fab bargins here is what we got him as he will now be clubbing/nite club age he needs some better going out clothes
$140 quicksilver jacket for $70.
$100 quicksilver jeans for $50
$140 DC shoes for $60
$60 quicksilver shirt for $30
$60 Tapout shirt for $27
$40 billabong belt $10
$20x 3pkt of quicksilver socks for $15
$60 ripcurl back pack for work for $20
So $620 worth of really nice stuff all for about $250 and i got DH a pair of Billabong jeans for $40 and me a Roxy jacket for $30.
I LOVE DFO FACTORY OUTLETS.
And the other thing i did on the weekend was de-nit my stepdaughter you would not believe the state of her head she came to us on friday afternoon for her normal fortnightly visit she was scratching and had sore's and scabs all over the back of her neck i said what is all that and she says mum has said i am allergic to shampoo and she has sent some gloves and tape to put on my hands at night to stop me scratching and some detol cream to put on the sores i said did mum check you for nits she said yes so i txt her mum and asked she said yes on the thursday before she came so i said ok no worries anyway E (i will call her) was scratching and scratching and her hair just looked filthy so i said go have a shower and use my organic stuff it is chemical free it will help your scalp but before you do let me have a look.
WELLLLL HOLY F#CK!!!!!!!!!!! i took her hair out of the band and parted it and there was friggen nits running everywhere i was horrified i was nearly sick i called DH (her dad) and he was shocked so i jumped in the car and went and brought some sensitive organic nit solution i couldnt use the normal stuff it would have burnt her head and i got some pinetarsal for the sores and scabs and some organic dry hair shampoo and conditioner and then spent the next 3 hours YES! 3 hour combing nits out of her hair they were even falling on the floor as i was combing her hair it was the most disgusting thing i have seen her poor scalp is covered in sores from the nit bites and she has patches of missing hair where she has scratched so much the poor little thing so after i got all the nits out i washed her hair and soaked her head in pinetarsal to stop the itch and help the sores heal then i got on the phone and blasted her mother and her excuse was.
Well i checked and didnt see any and i said well they have been there for weeks for her head to look like that and there is adult nits and babies and her head is full of eggs and then E tells me mum knew i had nits she has been using teatree cream to try and get rid of them and told me not to tell anyone at school WTF!!! tea tree cream that wont do a dam thing so i blast her mother some more and she says.
Well i am not paying that much for organic stuff and nit stuff i cant afford it if her scalp is so bad its her fault from scratching she buys E $1.90 shampoo thats all she will spend and E is only allowed to wash her hair every 3rd day so it lasts longer OMG!!! so i blast the mother some more and tell her i have spent $50 just on nit sh#t and speacial shampoo and conditioner plus the pinetarsal to try to fix her head and i said the her mother i will send it all home with E for you to use on HER head not your own and she needs her hair tied up and plated every day and if she comes back to us next fortnight and you have done nothing to keep the treatment up i will call doc's and show them all the photo's i have taken of her head and the nits all over the bathtowel, floor and in her hair.
What a penny pinching cheapskate slack lazy mother that poor little girl would have been so uncomfortable all that time so i hope she does what i have said and next time E comes over i am getting her hair cut as her mother wont pay for a hair cut.
OMG Ferrals that is terrible about your step daughters hair. What a B of a mother. That is just plain neglect. How old is she again? Sounds like you got a bargain at DFO. I went there a few months ago and didn't find a thing.
Reet I don't have J's results. Went to my GP on the weekend to get them and she tried to give me the old results and insisted they were negative and refused to call the hospital for the results. So I don't know but I am confident it mustn't be whooping cough as every Tom, **** and Harry would have let me know by now. When DD had it 2years ago I had multiple calls in a matter of an hour of the results been available. I think because its a notifiable disease I had population health, Dr's the nurses and pathology all call one after another to make sure DD was getting treatment and we were staying away from the community. If J had it I'm sure I would definately know by now. I do wish I knew if she had the RSV or Rhino virus.
Ferrals I wish you were my DD's step mother. Your more then welcome to have her hair cut to a bob. She is refusing but wont brush it. I so want to just snip it of. Its long and very very thick but she is refusing to have it cut but can't look after it.
So there is only a year between my eldest and her. I am really struggling with that age. Give me triplet newborns over a 10yr old girl anyday. Well my 10yr old. They sound the same. My DD is very young for her age and I don't baby her. She is very immature but I think its because she wants to be treated like her sister who is 4. Its ridiculous she has crying fits and agressive tantrums throwing things as she isn't treated like her sister. She would seriously let me wipe her bum and be happy about it. Vent over.
Mildez-lol that is so funny (sorry i know not for you) E is like that because her mum is nuts she still buys E Hi five and dora the explora undies in size 5-6 she is in year 4 at school and i can tell she is embarrassed by the way her mother is with her and you can hear it in her ph convos with her the attitude comes out where with us we dont ever see it but i am pretty strict as is DH and i wont treat her differently then my boys and i think she really likes that i buy her clothes appropiate for her age and will take the time to brush and plait her hair ect and show her how to do things she should be doing for her age.
She is a very clingy needy little girl and can drive me batty with asking to help do housework ALL THE TIME she just wants to be with me 24/7 and i need room to breath but god love her she is a good girl just doesnt know how to play or amuse herself but i am pushing her to be a little bit more independent getting her to wash her hair every night here at our house and keeping her room clean and showing her how to dress nicely so maybe thats why she loves me so much her mother has no dress sense and really wont spend money on E unless its on sale she even gave E 6 pairs of shoes for xmass all bigger sizes so they wont fit for years but they were on sale so what a great xmas present for a 9 year old.
God i could go on here is another example we brought E a DS with games and she is not allowed to take the things from our house home with her otherwise they will never come back anyway her mum say oh i will get you one when i go to bali ( yep she goes on holiday and dumps E with her mum) anyway she comes back and says they were not on sale so i will get you one for your BDay when her Bday comes it was oh i couldnt get one in the colour you want (bullsh#t) so it's wait until xmas then xmass comes and E comes to our house and i said did you get you DS from your mum and E says mum cant find it she brought it and when we moved house it got packed away so she cant find it and i have to wait until she unpacks everything OMG! you have got to be kidding so anyway when the new DSI came in her mum got a 2nd hand old DS for her with no games so the next birthday she promises E some games but again they are packed away when they moved and she couldnt find them it took 4 months before E got some 2nd hand baby sh#tty games for the DS she had sitting in her room.
NOW! if she had 6 kids and was single on the pension i would give her some slack but she works full time and goes away with her boyfriends (yes boyfriends not 1 but 3) all the time and E is getting bare essentials and sales only and $1.90 shampoo which has to last a month and is an only child should i go on i could be here all day.
I could start also Ferrals on DD's biofather. The one who went 8yrs without seeing her. I stopped sending DDs things with her when he insisted he had to buy her clothes as I didn't send her any which was a load of bull. She has one outfit in summer and winter each and one pair of undies at her Dads. The most scabby clothes you can imagine. Her summer outfit is a dress that looks like one of the $6 beach dresses from Big W with no shape what so ever.. It looks like a wheat bag with a head hole. I could sew something nicer myself and I don't sew. He is too occupied with his 18yr old gf (his 31) to even see DD now which suits me but I have another mediation thing coming up over it.
Anyway about starting Ella on solids. I gave J a taste of pumpkin yesterday. When I said taste it was only enough to taste not even enough to swollow. Pretty cute she just kept poking her tounge out like she was licking it. It was cute. DD2 started solids at 3months after she got stuck into a pear that fell out of the shopping bag into her pram. She had almost devoured it when I found her and she didn't look back after then. But DD2 is a huge eater. She was 8.5kilos at 3months (only 3.5kilos born) she has never stopped growing or eating. At just 4 she is 115cm and 21kilos. At 18months she was the same height and weight as DD1 was when she was 4. DD1 started solid at 8months as she hated them. I tried her on and off since 5months but she just wasn't interested. Although J is only 10weeks old I'm going to continue to give her a taste of food but not enough for her to need to swollow just a lick. I chipped DH for giving her a lick of icing. Just abit sweet. Poor bub she might end up diabetic. Do you give Ella the plain rice cereal? I should take notice next time I'm in the super market what is available. I'll be making most of my own but I'll buy those boxes of flavoured cereal when she gets older.
Yeah you think with 1 child you would care for them better. My kids miss out on things I wish I could get them but half of that is so they dont expect everything. I want them to appreciate what they do get and I tell you neither of them do. Ok DD2 is only 4 so I get that but my eldest should appreciate her belongings more then she does. There will be no brand names (other then her school bag) until she can actually look after her things. I've lost count of how many shoes of hers have been left out in the rain or left for the dog to chew as she is to lazy to go get them.
Ferrals do your younger boys get many or any hand me downs from the oldest brother? DD2 gets some hand me downs but not many but J so far hasn't needed anything of her own as I have it all from DD2. I don't want her to miss out when she is older and feel everything she gets is 2nd hand but at the same time what a waste if there not used. What do others do? At this stage J looks like she is in brand new clothing in perfect condition and has more things then she could wear. Then when she is older I'll be able to afford it but then it seems so wasteful not giving her DD1&2s things.
Hi Ladies! My ban didnt work, the notifications in my emails have been haunting me! hehe. I havent hd time to read up yet, hope you are all well. Boy have i got a lot done since my computer ban! Will be back next week when i have finished everything on my list!
Yes i got the plain rice cereal she loves it and even opens her mouth when she see's the spoon she only has about 1 teaspoon mixed with a bit of formula after her bottle which she never finishes only has about 140-160mls but she is a porker.
Mildez-they did when they were younger now they are such different sizes my 18 year old is a size mens 34 my 15 year old is a mens 32 and he is real skinny and my 13 year old is also a mens 30-32 he is real tall and being boys their clothes get trashed so cant hand any down now.
The way i see it if the clothes are still in good nick and look nice hand em down i had my favourites that i wanted to keep but after the 3rd boy they looked ratty so had to bin them.
I also buy brand name for good going out clothes only and if i find them on special i will buy them some extras other wise Jay Jays is great for teeage boys.
I do buy expensive DC shoes only because they last the whole year i was sick of buy 2-3 pairs and i get the brand name school bags on sale i refuse to pay full price so my kids are well dresses but they dont need to know their mother is a bargin hunter and haggler lol.
I do spoil them but i also make them work for it so they appreciate what they have and if they give me any grief they lose it so they no mum means it they all have set chores and i expect them to do as i say when i say and if they back chat they lose their laptops or PS3 or we turn the broadband internet off for the night which they hate so i really dont have any trouble from them so far.
Your ex sound's like a cheapskate too i love the remark about the wheat bag with the hole in it lol.
Thats too cute Ferrals Ella opening her mouth for more at that age. Are you finding it helps with her reflux?Are you still using the angelcare movement monitor? I've been using ours religiously except during the day as J follows me around in the pram or bouncer. When do you plan on not using it anymore? I'm thinking like 12months. Initially it ****ed me off but now I can't sleep without hearing the beeps. I'm trying to convince myself to put her in her cot in another few months which is in another room. I've never done that before but I think I should seeing as J sleeps fairly well and the $1350 cot we brought 4yrs ago still hasn't been used
Ferrals - What exactly is farex? Your poor DSD with all those nits.... that must have been awful for her. When you described the missing bits of hair and scabs it reminded me of my poor kitty when she gets a flea bite. She's allergic so she just scratches herself to pieces and rips all her fur out..... oh it's awful enough seeing my cat like that. How could her mother allow her to get so bad??? It's unimaginable! I spent $240 in 3 months to get my cat well again, because she's part of our family and one of my babies! Ughhh I'm disgusted in that woman right now. You poor thing having to fix her mess. IKWYM about the clinginess too, my little niece is a bit like that with me. She loves me to braid her hair for her, and always wants to cuddle up and be right on top of me lol. It does drive me a bit batty sometimes but like your DSD she's a good girl and I love her. It sounds like you're exactly what E needs right now. A solid mother figure, and someone who cares! She'll come to YOU when she has a secret, or a problem, and that's the best position to be in. The more I hear about her mother, the more I wonder what your DH ever saw in her. I'm sure you've had the same thought process though..... Hooray for the bargains you got at DFO though, I got some new mummy clothes at the Brissie one when Axel was about a week old. Best fun ever!
Mildez - Sounds like you've got your hands full there hun. I get told all the time daughters are more difficult than sons. I wonder sometimes if that's true. Good luck with the battle over the haircut hehe. Tough one! How cute letting little J taste the pumpkin.. awww. Oh and I had to laugh at the incident with the pear... lmao!
Tegam - lol, you're doing well to stay away this long!
AFM - Once again Axel cries when it's time to update on me. LOL. So, another quickie. I'm a bit irritated at SIL after visiting them last night. Her 9y.o daughter was cuddling Axel a lot of the time I was there (as usual) and as we left she says to her: Oh, A, don't go outside to say goodbye it's too cold and you were up all night last night coughing and sneezing you're probably getting sick.
GREAT! Thanks for letting me know AFTER I let her hold and kiss and cuddle my baby! All I can say is fudgebucket. I hope my little man doesn't get sick.
Thats terrible forshelby that your SIL could allow her daughter to potentially spread the germs. My sister is like that but I was very cruel and said she can't come with her son as its not worth risking my kids getting sick when J is so little. Although J doesn't have whooping cough and is getting better my sister doesn't know that PMSL. Its been my secret to keeping her away with her son. Maybe you need to make a lie and say Axel has whooping cough or Gastro or something.
Forshelby God help me if all my daughters are like my eldest. I do feel very sorry for my eldest. She hasn't had the easiest of lives with the other side of the family F with her head when she is at such a vulnerable age. They tell her she isn't really apart of our family as now its mum with her knew husband and her HALF sisters. Her whole other family are horrible people. Told her she is ugly just like her mother because she has freakles just like her mother blabla bla. I just wish she would tell them to go jump. She doesn't have a problem telling me where to go. She is scared of them. Can't wait until she gets to an age where she tells them where to go as she wont tolerate what they say to her. They wont know what hits them especially if she does her lolly and smashes there furniture or throws something through a window (she smashed her door of the hinges in her room, smashed a few of her things throwing them at me so I can't wait until the day that she does it to something of theirs. They wil send her home quick smart.
Mildez - That's just horrible to say those things to a child........ there's got to be something deeply wrong with them to do that. I'm shocked! Poor little sweetheart. Hopefully one day she'll open up a can of whoopage on them...........
Yeah forshelby they are horrible people. Well its DD's grandma thats horrible and she fuels everyone else in the family. She is the undoing of the whole family. Can't believe one of them (there are heaps) haven't put her in her place. But then she looks after her own. She tried to help ex get out of child support and all it did was give him a massive debt. If she had half a heart she would have wanted him to help raise her but nope. Told him to run and said he didn't owe DD anything and I can provide everything for her seeing as my family is rich. Mmmm its not the point (not that my family are just are incomparion to her) Atleast I got 8yrs of peace from him so I should thank her for that. Can't wait until DD give it to them as I know with her behavioural problems its only a matter of time and they wont know what hit them. (Probably a fan or book, pair of shoes or saucepan PMSL) It will be the one time I don't care that DD has some major anger management/behavioural problems.
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i said did mum check you for nits she said yes so i txt her mum and asked she said yes on the thursday before she came so i said ok no worries anyway E (i will call her) was scratching and scratching and her hair just looked filthy so i said go have a shower and use my organic stuff it is chemical free it will help your scalp but before you do let me have a look.
IKWYM about the clinginess too, my little niece is a bit like that with me. She loves me to braid her hair for her, and always wants to cuddle up and be right on top of me lol. It does drive me a bit batty sometimes but like your DSD she's a good girl and I love her. It sounds like you're exactly what E needs right now. A solid mother figure, and someone who cares! She'll come to YOU when she has a secret, or a problem, and that's the best position to be in. The more I hear about her mother, the more I wonder what your DH ever saw in her. I'm sure you've had the same thought process though..... Hooray for the bargains you got at DFO though, I got some new mummy clothes at the Brissie one when Axel was about a week old. Best fun ever!
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