Bun - Re your DD - this is a toughy. Atm it may be too ambitious to do too much because you have a new baby in the house and maybe some of her waking is a bit of anxiety about the new bubba. We had an issue with taking the dummy off Loren because she kept loosing it and we had to replace it all the time. We got to the point that we just went cold turkey and put up with a few nights from hell. We did a loooottt of patting and back rubbing. Thankfully she has replaced the dummy with a dolly. With the bottle you could start with giving her the night time bottle out side of her room then putting her to bed. Again be prepared for a battle of the wills but at the same time maybe sit with her until she settles and keep telling her that she has already had her bottle. I would start to verbalise her nightly routine with her. Tell her that it is time for bottle, then tell her it is time to brush our teeth, then a story and then night night etc. I think whatever you do you need to choose your battles, take things slow, be consistent (mum and dad), do things at the right time (when you have the energy and patience). Good luck