Parenting After Miscarriage or Loss - January 2010

[Spring Angel]

Ladies,

I'm exhausted, you guys have been talking up a storm. Please forgive me for the short persies, I promise to try to keep up from now on.

Bun: Hun, you sound like you've been through so much. It is going to take a while to process it hun but you should be so very proud of the amazing job you did getting your bub here. DS1 was posterior and because he was stillborn the mw didn't seem to give a stuff about me and just left me alone. I was in pure agony, I thought I would die and I ended up asking for an epi so I can get where you are coming from. I hope the issue with the stitches sorts out and you can get on with your recovery soon. BTW I've seen the pics of J and he is just so very cute.

Sequioa: Welcome hun, I'm sorry you've had to join us IYKWIM but the ladies in here are just awesome.

Mako:

I promise to come back later and chat some more. Off to clean the bathroom before the boys wake.

Lv Spring

[kellym]

Just wanted to send everyone some big hugs... think I need them atm too. Sorry for the little whinge but if I'm not going through enough atm, I'm now having to bite my tongue with my step dad. It's so hard. I love my Mum soooo much and we're extremely close and as much as I love me step dad too.. we just don't always get along and it's really hard 'living' with him. We're only here for three more days before heading back to Melb but I swear I'm REALLY close to just blowing up and telling him what I really think sometimes. It's only stupid small things but right now, they feel like they're massive and I just don't need it.

Sorry guys.. it's just hard because I love being here and there's part of me thats dreading going back to Melb but then again.. there's now a part of me that just can't wait to have some of my own space again.. I know that feeling won't last long though, when it's just DS and I home every day again with no more help. I just hate feeling like this.

Sorry again.. there are much bigger problems in here right now and I hate to be petty.. just need to get it off my chest.

Kel xxx

[BekZ]

Hugs Kelly I completely know how you feel. I always bite my tongue when my step mother is involved. She is a great Nanny to the girls but she is hard woman to get along with some times. I hope your last few days with your mum are special

[mako]

Jo How did your POAS test go this morning?

Kelly I too have to bite my tongue where my stepdad is concerned although I certainly let him know when I don't approve of the way he speaks to me or my child at times
Enjoy your last few days in Perth with your mum though. How are you feeling in general now?

Willow thanks for letting me know what the lady said about me I will keep it in the very back of my mind and see what happens down the track.
Hope you have a better day today

Michelle How are you holding up hun?

Deb How's your BP? I hope its dropped down a bit too.

I have a busy day today. Heaps of washing (yeah Mount Washmore here too Megsmum lol) to be done luckily its going to be a hot day so won't take too long to dry and then I have to go shopping for a birthday present for my niece and I have no idea what to buy her.

Hope everyone has a good day. BBL to check on Jo

[JCE0810]

Kelly & Mako: sending more

Michelle: thinking of you

Deb: i hope you are doing ok with your BP

AFM: Well i got up at 7.30am as i couldnt sleep any longer and POAS AND the 2nd line was darker, so i'll be making a dr appt later today for sometime next week. My visitors arrived last night around 10pm and we didnt get to bed until 1.30am so today i want to get some washing done early as it's suppose to be 42degrees here.

[BekZ]

Bonham - Congrates hun. Plenty of sticky vibes coming your way

[kellym]

Jo - CONGRATULATIONS!!! Fantastic news hun. I know you're extremely nervious but try to enjoy it at least for a moment!! We're all here for you and praying that we finally get some luck in here... surely it's gotta happen this time!!! Exciting!!!

Have another busy day today and will be catching up with Jayne this avo... yay!!!

Kel xxx

[Spring Angel]

Bonham: Yay hun, I am so happy for you. I hope and pray you've got a sticky little bub there.

[JCE0810]

Thanks ladies, i've rung my Dr and cant get into see him until alteast Wednesday if i'm lucky, i have to ring Wednesday morning to see if they can fit me in. The other option is to just see 1 of the other Dr's for now, but my Dr is only 1 of 2 OB/GYN Dr's in this town.

I'm hoping that this is the start of something good in here, surely it has to happen soon.

quishy to everyone

[mako]

WOOHOO Jo thats fantastic news. I'm sending you many many

Kelly and Jayne I have to say I'm jealous lol Hope you both have a great afternoon.

[LisaL]

Jo - nothing like a BFP to get me in a good mood Congratulations hun, sending you all the sticky vibes I can muster and wishing you a happy and healthy pg!!

Jayne / Kelly - enjoy your meeting ladies!

Q - when do I start taking EPO and RLT?? Can you believe im asking this already?? Im scared LOL!!

[BekZ]

Lisa -

RLT you can start at anytime really, preferably in the second tri. So you are fine to drink it now. 3 cups a day, and then around 35 plus weeks go to 5 cups if you can stomach it. Or go to a naturopath and get a liquid version and take it once or twice per day.

The EPO start orally around 34-35 weeks, just 2. And vaginally 37 weeks - 2 capsules in the night before bed, 38+ weeks can up it to 3 or 4.
Remember to wear a pad. What goes in, will come back out.

[nicjay]

Bonham - Yay, congrats on the BFP!!! Heaps of sticky vibes coming your way I have a good feeling for you.

Kelly - It must be hard for you without the family support around, I know I wouldn't have coped well without mine, but on the other hand there was some that I could have done without

Have a nice day everyone else, and a nice weekend Its going to be a hot one here. Had best be off, have to take DD1 to the podiatrist for a checkup, fingers crossed he will be happy with her now she has had orthotics for a while.

[Inanna]

Welcome again Megsmum - I am glad you have joined us! It's lovely to see all the pain of the TTC threads ending in this parenting forum. It always warms me... I'm sure in no time you will get to know us all and us you.

Bonham!!! I am so happy that you have your positive test! I pray and hope this little one is a sticky little person & in about 9 months we are all celebrating your birth.

Mako: I hope you are okay today. Just want you to know that how you are feeling is so so normal - just take it a day at a time...

Michelle: Your parcel is leaving Maleny today - OMG I can't believe I finally have put it in the post after so many failed attempts at sending things in the past. I hope things are okay? I am here always if you need me or want to talk.

Willow: I hope you are feeling better soon...

Bun: How are you today? How is that precious little man?

Kelly: I can understand needing some breathing space after being with relatives for a holiday. Be gentle with yourself - you have been through so much

Me: Well my BP is still up way too high... I have increased my antihypertensives so we'll see how that goes. I will see a cardiologist as soon as I can get an appointment. Immys appointment went as I expected yesterday - but man it was a looooooong day! We left home at 6am - up at 4.30am. Got there at 745 for an 8am start! She did so well my beautiful Princess! She of course is not meeting "usual" two year old tests in the psychology department. I didn't need to explain her preoccupation with lining things up as she lined up the magazines in the waiting room and the blocks and then began on the paper cups... She isn't showing any other signs of autisim so we'll see...
She of course was told she had poor muscle tone, walks with a head stoop and the obvious... She's small! She isn't on the gowth charts any more. She is about 12 months behind in height and her weight is in the 3rd centile. (she's 10kgs)... Anyway it was a bit of a waste of time from my perspective but it's interesting I guess. A lovely touching thing the director of the NICU who happens to be a very gorgeous gentleman popped his head in to see Immy. She was in NICU for so long and took so long to improve she remained in his mind... Immy put her arms up to be cuddled (she is very very very friendly and does this to anyone!) but it really touched him & found me sobbing. So many times I had sat by her incubator praying for the day I could come back there and show off my "normal" little 2 year old... It felt good to know we have survived so much together and that my Imogen made it back there - like a circle complete...

I had the mediation in the afternoon to do wiht the relocation... That went really well - she was a lovely woman & very sympathetic to my case. She will write to the FOTY and he has 10 days to make an appointment for a meeting as well. Then it goes to a mediation session...
Someone's coming to look through the house on Sunday - so let's hope that these are the buyers for our home and that the FOTY agrees to me moving & we can all move on...

to you all..xxxx

[~Jayne~]

BONHAM _ I am soooooo excited for you. Cant believe how cool & calm you are, oh yeah, make a dr's appointment for next week, piles of washing, blah blah blah I'd be like oh my freaking goodness, I'm UTD, I can't believe it, I need to see a dr NOW I am loving your style!!!

Well, must go get the house in order for a lovely visitor that I am getting today......

Love Jayne

[Freya]

Jo - Congrats!! How exciting. We all understand your caution though but I truly believe in thinking positive so I am looking forward to anxiously awaiting your birth announcement in 9mths time

Deb - Immy sounds like such a sweetheart, I would have been crying too! What an amazing girl; I think she'll be doing great things with her life. First female prime minister has a nice ring to it dont you think?

Jayne/Kelly - I am so jealous you get to meetup!

SuperNurse - how are you doing?

Mako - is it hot up your way today? I can definately join you and Megsmum in the 'Ive visited Mt Washmore' club; Im so slack at folding clothes

[mako]

Freya YES it is HOT!! lol. Poor DH working out in the heat all day. He'll be exhausted when he gets home. I'm waiting on Sage to wake up so I can take him for a swim in the lake. He'll be wanting to play out the back but its just way too hot for that.

Deb Oh hun your little princess sounds gorgeous. I just want to let you know that my boy is only 10.something kgs too and he was born around the same time as Immy I really do hope the people coming through your home are the buyers you are hoping for. I'm so happy your appt went well too.
Oh and thank you for letting me know that how I'm feeling at times is "normal". I really do wonder sometimes and think I have high expectations of myself. Unfortunately DH has been copping a bit(a lot) of flack from me lately I feel so bad about that but sometimes just can't help it

Lisa I can't believe you are starting the RLT already. Where has the time gone??
Hope you are doing well though.

I hope everyone is coping ok with the heat. Unfortunately its meant to be worse here over the weekend so I can see the air con going constantly and us going swimming quite frequently. Lucky the lake is only 5 mins away and the beach 3 mins

[Willow]

Lucky the lake is only 5 mins away and the beach 3 mins

Man, I gotta move...

Jo - congratulations!!! Praying that all will be smooth sailing

Deb - Glad to hear both Immy's appt and the mediation went well. Are you expecting trouble from FOTY in regards to the relocation?

AFU, Mt Washmore here too but slowly working my way through it today. It's been one of those days today and my boys are testing my limits

Got a phone call from mum last night, the oncologist came to see Nan after we left the other day to tell her they will not proceed with any further chemo. Scans have shown no improvement and they feel it is taking too much of a toll on her so they have decided not to proceed I just hope she doesn't suffer...she's is in quite a bit of pain now and the cancer is aggressive we've been told. We are all preparing ourselves...

Gotta go, screaming kids hanging off me everywhere (literally )

I swear sometimes on days like today where the kids will not listen, will not sleep, will not co-operate and I have not left the house other than to go to the clothes line, I feel like *I* have completely disappeared....