thread: Parenting after Miscarriage or Loss ~ April/May

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  1. #1
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    Jan 2006
    Qingdao, China
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    JANIE _ So glad that Baby Daniel did so well with his little op - what a load off! I'm so glad he is home. You sould really relieved too - which is fab as well.

    BEK _ How are you doing?

    WILLOW _ Did you end up talking to V about Nanna? She is the same age as Jess isn't she? I don't know, Nanna is so very old & tired & she needs to go to heaven to rest?? I had to take mine to a funeral in January so I glossed it over as much as I can. I told her the coffin was a special postage box for the angels to post our uncle to heaven. She was 'ok' with that, but then again, she didn't know this uncle really well, where obviously she does know your Nan really well? My thoughts are with you & you will tell her the most appropriate story.

    MICHELLE _ How do you feel with your parents gone? The little road trip sounds like it could be ok, will get the kids out & about & also yourself?? You might be solo in person, but not in spirit darl, every single one of us is with you, as well as Greg. Can any of the Sydney girls accompany Michelle???

    LISA _WTG on the 6 hour sleepy stint! Awesome!

    MAKO _ How are you sweet?

    BUN _ Was so awesome to meet you! Joshua is just so scrumptious! I soooooooooo loved my snuggles with him & secretly I'm pretty sure he liked me too! Catherine is so adorable, that cheeky little grin is going to help getting her out of lots of trouble! LOL I trust you had a safe & enjoyable flight home! Oh & I picked up some cute jeans at Myer for Curly for $21! Bargain!

    Freya, Spring, Bonham, BW & everybody else, massive hugs & hello.

    Love Jayne xx

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    Jan 2006
    Sydney
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    Jayne - the car trip is only short stints that I can do ok. The trip to the park today was a bad choice. My pelvis is so sore after doing a little too much last night and there were too many Daddies and their babies playing Even worse, I took them to the park that Greg used to always take them to. Poor monkeys had to deal with a blubbering Mummy who realised that she might think she is ok but in reality she isn't.

    There is an ache that I just can't ease and it hurts so much. I am sore, uncomfortable, feeling very alone and so incredibly sad. I miss his cuddles, his voice, his teasing. I just miss him and I hate that I will never get to hold him or talk to him ever again.

    I'm so sorry to dump this. I think I need to journal instead ..............

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    BellyBelly Member

    Aug 2006
    Melbourne
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    Oh Michelle - I'm just so glad that you have us here and can't imagine what you're going through... now that everyone's life starts to go on again... nowhere near the same thing but that's the part I found the hardest when I lost my Dad. We're all with you through this hun. Massive hugs for you and the kids.

    Jayne - Will have to organise a catch up.. probably for the second week I'm there... starting the 10th May.. so let me know when you're free!!!

    Janie - Sooo glad all went well with D.. what a trooper and VERY much looking forward to catching up next week.. before I head off.

    Mako - How are you going?

    Sorry guys, don't have the energy for any more personals.. I'm still sooo tired and not feeling too good.. just nausious all day long.. it's amazing.. I've never experienced anything like it.. but I'm trying to enjoy every minute of it and appreciate how lucky I am... this is definitely my last pg and it's a very weird feeling so trying to take it all in!!

    Really looking forward to heading back to Perth next week too.

    Kel xxx

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    BellyBelly Member

    Jan 2006
    Melb, Vic
    1,212

    Michelle - dont be sorry honey - this is whats hapenning in your world right now and we want you to use this thread as a release, its a parenting and friendship thread and I speak for all of us when I say its ok to dump in here.. The fact you had the strength to take them there is amazing - but you know Greg would want you to take the kids to his park and now you have done it once the next time wont be so bad I know you miss him, and its ok to ache for him - I bet it hurts like hell, but soon this day will pass and tomorrow will bring fresh hope, hope in the smiles of your two earth side angels and thier baby brother George xx

    Janie - little D is a real trooper - must get it from his mum! Glad he is home and well xx

    Gotta go BF the little beauty xx

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    Jan 2006
    Qingdao, China
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    MICHELLE _ Honestly, I'm sure I speak for everybody here, but we want to be able to listen to IT ALL! That is what we are here for, we are hear to listen, to cry with you, to try to understand what you are going through & be of assistance to you in whichever way we can. We are here for the long haul, not just for the coming few weeks, but in months, years & decades to come. We are here to cheer you through George's arrival, Oscar starting school, Lily becoming a big sister, the works. So don't feel as though you are saying too much or that you need to journal anything to 'spare' us of anything. I know you have stack of IRL friends & of course family to help you through, but I think of us all in here as a 'special family'. I think we are a wonderful group of loving women who would bend over backwards to help each other out. So please, don't hold back, we're here for you. I'm here for you.

    KELLY _ Sorry you're still so ill, but it's a really good sign though. I just hope it eases soon for you. YES! I would not let you visit Perth & not see me! You tell me what days are best for you & we can figure something out. I just work Monday & Wednesdays.

    I hope you all have a reflective Anzac Day tomorrow.

    Love Jayne

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    Registered User

    Jul 2006
    Logan
    2,991

    Michelle - Please come in here and tell us how it is for you. My heart breaks for you and I wish I could come over and give you a real hug.

    Jayne - Thanks for asking how we are. Eva's sleep is still the same but for now it is easier for me to just with the flow. I tried not offering boob and other settling methods but she ends up so upset and she just won't go down. I did 3 nights in a row of not giving her boob to re-settle and she was up for 3 hours each night. So I threw my arms up in the air and went back to feeding her to sleep. I must say though that she did do 2 times 5 hour stretches last week. I am glad you had an awesome holiday.

    Willow - Been thinking about you over the weekend.

    Hi all. Hugs everyone

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    Sep 2006
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    Hi sorry I haven't been around for a few days. We went away camping for the weekend and omg it was freezing lol. Sage had a great time playing and getting dirty as kids do

    Michelle PLEASE come in here and vent or "talk" about what you are going through. Each and every one of us is here to support you as you travel through each day. I'd like to come and visit you soon too so I can give you some of these IRL. Also good on you for taking that massive step of taking the kids to the park. I'm sure they loved going and will remember all the times their Daddy took them there and will now get to create some new memories of going with Mummy.
    I also agree with everything Jayne has said

    Janie What a little trooper baby D is. I'm pleased his op went well and he's now home again with you

    Willow How was your weekend? Thanks for the email too

    As for us well DH is pushing for no more babies and I'm struggling with that idea in a huge way. I feel like I'm being punished for all my m/c's and it sucks I told him to wait until I see my Ob in a couple of weeks as I just can't give up my dream. I'd always wanted 4 kids but DH only ever wanted 2 so I agreed on that but I just feel a bit ripped off if he continues pushing for us to stop now. If there is something else out there that is simple and will help us have another healthy bub then I want to try that just once. I NEED to have that chance. As for the bleeding well I've put that down as af. It hung around for 8 days so I wasn't too impressed about it but I can't change it. So I had a 26 day cycle after d&c. Totally different to my previous 35 day cycles but who knows what my silly body is up to now.

    Hi to everyone. I'll try to catch up on all your posts soon.