Lee - we need to chat but I believe you haven't processed the loss of Chris and the PTSD / counselling is starting to address some of this.You and DH have also had a cr@ppy time with the loss of Luc and that in itself can place significant stress on a relationship. I know how much work Greg and I had to do after Caitlyn and it did make us realise that the loss of a child could be such a make or break time for couples depending on how they dealt with it. Your different backgrounds and parenting styles also put you at odds. So much to deal with is such a short time and much of it only now being addressed. It is no wonder you are just going through the motions.

However - taking advice from the woman who has recently lost a husband and is learning to deal with three little people on her own is probably not advisable Especially when the concept of a new partner / relationship is just too much to consider. I am on the phone if you want to talk. You know how it is - distraction and all that