Lee, I wish that I had something insightful to say. All I can offer is and my own experiences. I had a stepdad when I was a teen. He didn't take much interest in me. I know that it must have been hard on him too. My mom made the mistake of never encouraging a relationship there. All I know is that even with all of the conflict in our house I did still want him to take an interest in me. I think the fact that he didn't made me argue with him more. Maybe it would be a good thing if the whole family saw a councilor together.