Evening ladies....
Just wanted to run something by you all. I could be posting this somewhere else but don't want a whole separate thread about it and I respect your opionons...so now I'm rabitting on and will just get to the point:
I posted a few weeks ago that I'd made a friend at school, one of the other mums. Was pretty happy about it at the time because I was getting the cold shoulder from everyone else (even the mums we'd been to preschool with for 2 years) and it's really nice to have someone to chat to every morning and afternoon. She has been to my house once and done some really nice things for us. But I'm finding every now and then a red flag will pop up. She will say things that don't quite sit right with me. For example today... We found out one of the mums at school is pregnant. Lovely. This afternoon at school she said to me "I don't know how she managed to get pregnant. She is SO ugly.'
Ultra sensitive topic for me I know...but am I over reacting?? Here's another one...we were walking out the gate and she said to another mum "Hello! I didn't recognise you!" then as we're walking away she mutters to me "I can't believe the way some people let themselves go after having kids".
Do you agree, that these are just really nasty, mean spirited things to say? Just totally uncalled for??
My dilemna is this - do I take a massive step back and decide that I don't want this person to become a friend of mine because of a few nasty comments she's made? Or am I over analysing things like I normally do - this is just a mum at school who I chat with in the mornings. She doesn't have to be my bestie iykwim?
What do you guys think? It's been playing o my mind for a week or so. I guess I'm really thinking about it because we're supposed to be organising some play dates for the girls during the holidays so I kinda want to make up my mind whether or not I should pull back a bit. I can be a bit judgemental and it's something I'm trying to work on so I've lost a bit of perspective on this one
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