Wow, I would never have attributed Pinky with those characteristics! I have found her to be a really liberating read - arming me with the ammunition to be the parent I want to be with my own child. I'm actually stunned to read your reaction, Cassius and don't understand it, not that we have to see eye to eye on these things
I've found The Politics Of Breastfeeding to be a sort of proxy parenting book. It's not really, yet it informs my parenting quite a bit in it's approach (probably because what it says I tend to think anyway, and it's just reinforcing that for me!).
Reading Diaper-Free by Ingrid Bauer and even though it's supposed to be about elimination communication, even she says that it's more than just a way to go to the toilet, it's a whole dynamic with your child and is really part of that unconditionality that some of us strive for in our parenting relationships
I'm with you, Cassius, about Kidwrangling. Actually, after reading the first bit of this (and promptly returning it to the library) I realised why my second reading of UTD (first time was two years before actually being UTD) was so disappointing - it just wasn't resonating with my parenting intentions Oh, well!