Well i have worked out that its definatly because of the baby. I am thinking because she is DH's favourite and Charlie seems to be mine shes probably thinking well whose is going to be the baby's (even though thats not how it works obviously but it seems that is how she is thhinking it) and its like she is being naughty to DH so that he leaves the room i'm in (cause it always ends up that way) and so she thinks its a way tog et him away from the baby so that he doesnt love it or something. Does that make sense? I know she loves bub i just think she is scared for losing her daddy to this other child in her mind.

Anyway now that i have kinds worked out the why i have stopped punishing her for it because its like to her its not being naughty and shes getting confused. So now i mostly just give her a big talk every day before and after DH gets home. We reasure her all the time etc about it all. She has always been very insecure and jealous and very much a daddy's girl. She tells me she isnt going it to hurt him. And the other day when we were laying down in bed she kept pushing DH and my belly away from each other.

It's still really hard on DH though as we still can't stop her behaviour no matter what we do. She's on a waiting list to see a child psychologist but i dont see how it'll help because we knmow her problem and i have done everything that they'll tell me to do anyway. I think we are just going to have to wait it out until bub is here and she can see that nothing will change. It'll be even better for her cause i have told DH that he's just going to have to spend one on one time with her at like a park or a play centre away from everyone else just so she realises that he's still her daddy.