I'm one of the lucky ones too. My dh works full time, but in his line of work that means 4 days on/4 days off, so on his days off he does heaps around the house and also quite enjoys the handyman type stuff.

Jenstar, I think the saddest thing I read in your post was the comment "He is a good father and can discipline the kids well when he is around..." Does this mean this is the way your kids see him - just as someone who tells them off? I hope he has some fun with them too, for his sake and theirs.