I am hearing you.. I do the books, ordering and banking for our business and have 3 kids with one on the way and DF just uses the old " I am the worker so I don't have to do anything else, you have it easy ".
DF won't even mow the lawn, I have renovated completely two houses and made a great profit with DF sitting on a chair with a beer in his hand watching me - I kid you not either.
My DF tells me that he pays my wages every week so he can tell me what to do and by that I mean pick up his smelly clothes, clean up his dirty dishes that he leaves all over the house and sometimes even flush the toilet after him( and I mean, flush the toilet ) cause he says he is too tired and forgets to do it.
I don't honestly think anything can change the way they are.