Does your husband or partner help you?

[Beach Mama]

Awww hun :hugs: it is really hard isn't it - especially when it becomes sort of like a competition. DH works really long hours, often 6 days a week so he really doesn't do much housework at all. At the moment I don't really mind but I am back to work part-time in a week or so and I think we might need to have a gentle chat about it then. You both live in the house, you both "work" - its just that one of you gets paid and the other doesn't. He needs to realise that it is a joint responsibility to keep the household running.

Maybe you could just set out a few things that just he does, like its his job to put out the bins, clean the shower (tough to do when you are pg and he can keep doing it when bubs arrives!) etc and that way, even though he goes out you will feel like he is contributing too.
Could you also have one night that is like a "date" night, get a sitter or wait til the kids are in bed and just spend time with each other. We have to do this too - because combined with working 6 days a week and soccer training two nights a week we have to plan time together. Im not looking forward to soccer actually starting because then Saturdays are out too. Ugh its so hard isn't it - I hope you find a solution thats works for you.