your not horrible at all! if your horrible then i must be rotton! i made my 3yo walk the hour walk home today, he chucked a tanty as we just missed a bus, picked up a large rock (more a chunk of brick) and threw it, just missing a brand new commodore.. kids have this abbility to push your buttons. they also like to think that what works on one person will work on everyone else... i would definatley be saying something to them, if it continues would there be any way to make him feel more content while at care, a fave teddy or something to have with him?