My DS used to be a bit like this the night and day after I worked, and he was looked after by my mum. I figured it was payback for leaving him, and I kind of didn't blame him. TBH, it didn't stop until I went on maternity leave and stopped leaving him. He will now go to mum's and come home with no consequences, but I do think he knows he's not being left so I can go to work, it's so he can have fun with Grandma.
You are not a horrible mummy AT ALL. The fact that you are concerned about this shows that you're a great mum . If I can be brutally honest with you, your DS's behaviour sounds quite normal, and to be expected in some kids. He is seeking reassurance that you will be there for him when he wants/needs you (which in my book are the same thing at their age ). Your idea might help - or it might not. If he really is looking for reassurance, then when he doesn't get it from the ladies who are caring for him it might really upset him there. If you all keep on being positive, and letting him know that you are all there for him when he perceives he needs the attention, then he will likely settle down in time.
I know the naughty stuff is very, very hard to deal with. I used to call it Tuesdayitis in our house, because I worked on a Monday. Your DS is also at a pretty tough age when they are working out their boundaries etc, which makes this all doubly tough for you. I hope you can find some way to help him settle a bit, and when you do, let the rest of us know!!!!!
Last edited by Janie; November 16th, 2010 at 04:24 PM.
. If I can be brutally honest with you, your DS's behaviour sounds quite normal, and to be expected in some kids. He is seeking reassurance that you will be there for him when he wants/needs you (which in my book are the same thing at their age
). Your idea might help - or it might not. If he really is looking for reassurance, then when he doesn't get it from the ladies who are caring for him it might really upset him there. If you all keep on being positive, and letting him know that you are all there for him when he perceives he needs the attention, then he will likely settle down in time.
I know the naughty stuff is very, very hard to deal with. I used to call it Tuesdayitis in our house, because I worked on a Monday. Your DS is also at a pretty tough age when they are working out their boundaries etc, which makes this all doubly tough for you. I hope you can find some way to help him settle a bit, and when you do, let the rest of us know!!!!!
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