Patronising. And breeding ignorance. Just because the information is out there doesn't mean people can't make a decision for themselves, but heck at least give people the option. Without that option people think they have only one decision. And in some cases it's not the right one.

I can't tell you how awful I felt when I first found BB. When I found out the way I birthed my daughter wasn't the only way, and the outcome could have been prevented. That I could have had more say. And years later when I moved and found a new MCHN who cried when she read my history, my struggles with breastfeeding that all stemmed from a paed who had no idea. That also could have been prevented. The PND I had, that I didn't know I had at the time... the support I never had... all these things. Information healed me. Information helped me.

And the thing that peeves me ultimately is that they don't sugar coat, they have an agenda. There is more information available (and sprouted) about the dangers of VBAC than there is the dangers of CS, the phsyical implications, the impact on a bonding, feeding, PND etc. Yet the first thing sprouted is, "What about the scar? Won't it rupture." Yes this does happen and it is a valid risk. But it should be up to the individual! I don't have a problem with what people choose to do with their bodies, or their babies... but let them CHOOSE. And the let the information be readily available.