Lulu, you must be at the end of your tether.

Can you have a nap in the middle of the day if she has a nap? I know it's not a long term solution, but just to help you get through the day with your own lack of sleep.

I know you say you've tried everything, but you're a smart cookie - what do you think has the BEST chance of working? How long did you try it for? She sounds like she is winning this bedtime war, hands down. I think you can do this, and I think you have a better chance of getting it right than you have of making it to the end of January sanity-intact with this still going on!

And just one point - it sounds like she doesn't want to sleep in her room for her daytime nap either. Can you change that? It sounds like her sleep association is not in her bed.

Sorry you're dealing with this Lulu, whinge away! Let us know how you're going.