One more thing thats going to pee me right off - when I went to sleep school when Mitch was 3 months the place was full of women with MINOR problems with their kids. Out of the 8 or so of us that were there, 2 of us actually had real sleep issues.
Seriously, whilst I was up every hour trying to resettle EVERYONE else was quite happily going to bed and sleeping through the night. Most of them had problems getting the child down for a day sleep. BIG FRICKEN DEAL.

so now there is a waiting list of MONTHS and if and when I get there its full of minor issues I'm gonna go off my tree, I really mean it.

I'll be back later to reformulate a plan using some of these responses. I really appreciate it xoxoxoxo