I thought I was doing the right thing letting him stay over rather than drag the kids off hours away, but he has absolutley NO respect for the kids needs or me. He keeps saying he wants to spend as much time with them as possible and hates that I won't let him live here (why would I??????), so HE keeps us all in a constant state of chaos. I'm sure on some level he doesn't want this sorted because I wont need him here. Can you tell I'm getting angry now I have had time to think about it??