SJL - already working with the council. Initially I wanted it to be about how Dp can understand the effect he is having on DS, it got him thinking but of course he doesn't feel it a big enough priority to continue. I refuse to follow up for him but I still go to vent my frustration and its helped me see the (really CRAPPY) dynamics going on here.
They do provide in-home support but they are packed to the rafters and I can't get in for that now.

Talk to QEC today, she offered me a place at the residential unit for 5 days in January. TBH I don't know if I'll need it, cos changes need to be made now and it looks like I'll be doing it on my own. Thats ok though, I'm finding strength again already (thanks BB!).

So tonight - told DD she needs to be a 'proper' girl ( I can't use the word big, she doesn't like it!), and go to bed properly for a sticker in the morning. Did the routine, she fell asleep but woke up about an hour later. Put her back to bed - she wandered out 11 times and I just put her back, soothed her and BY JINGO she has stayed there. 11 times isn't really much, considering it took nearly 30 times when Dp was here and it still didn't work.

I consider the fact Dp hasn't been here since Monday for this. I know it ain't gonna be plain sailing so soon but my confidence has come back immediately. I was always quite strict with DD16 and I know thats what gives her security now. With Dp here, always noisy, talking LOUDLY and clumping around in his fricken steel caps on hardwood floors just does my head in and literally saps me, then I'm too tired and anxious to face a stubborn 2 year old.

So I live to fight another day! Liz, you were so right I will be able to work this out