I can't really give much advice on Bf, I was never able too, so I'll leave that to the other ladies on here but I can tell you that after my DD was born I had some quite similar feelings towards her. It all came back to Lachlann. It was an unconscious thing that I didn't realise till much later when things did get easier. But I'm sure she picked up on my uneasiness. When we finally started to relax around each other thats when my "baby bliss" kicked in.
As PP have said please don't think you have to go through this alone. Ask someone who you feel at ease with to help you out, my gran helped me out more than my mum( I'm very close to my mum but felt she was smothering me this made me more anxious ergo DD was worse in my eyes).
I remember feeling exactly the same way at one point. my son would not take my right breast. it ended up engoreged and sore and he was happy to take the left always. I left him have the left and as the right was leaking when I was feeding, I expressed into a bottle( with my spare hand) it was easy because the breast was so full and after a little "let down" he took the right breast. Then I only offered him the right one for a couple of feeds.
Once they refuse one breast for a while the taste of the milk changes and it will become salty. Thats why sometimes you need to "let down" a breast if your baby refuses it. I learnt all this from a nice midwife at my local baby centre. Babies prefers the sweeter breast and will go for it everytime. So i suggest expressing a little (whilst feeding her on the right breast) and see how that goes. Maybe she will smell the difference and then try the right one.
It is both frustrating and upsetting for you because you can't make her happy but you need to understand that you are doing your best and motherhood is very hard.
Breastfeeding is tough work for some people and it will get easier. I promise
I was considering giving up bf and then my son relaxed and became used to it. You beautiful bub is only a week old and she has no idea what she wants.
I too remember crying in the shower. I think i cried for months.... it was the only time i had alone and it was like a release everytime i stepped under the water .lol
Your emotions are running so crazy right now. Give yourself some time to settle into being a mum. No one was born with these skills.... We all just do our best.
DH is probably just as freaked out as you are .... lean on him for support and talk about how you feel.
Welcome to motherhood. ! Its not easy but the rewards are priceless.
My son is still breastfeeding at a year....(time to wean him lol)
Talk to you soon
Last edited by Mum2Romone; November 22nd, 2009 at 07:05 AM.
I can not believe how insensitive that MCHN was to you! Is there someone else that you can see at the clinic? If there is I would also tell them what the other one said. That is terrible to just brush aside a new mums cry out for help.
With settling...I second what Anna said...I used a fit ball to sit on and just bounce holding DD firmly against my body and it would settle her. I think we also caved to a dummy at around 4 weeks. I didnt want to use it but it was a lifesaver.
You are really at the most difficult stage of being a mummy right now. You and bubs are still on your L plates for learnign how to feed and sleep and communicate. Your also recovering from the birth and all the surges of hormones are all over the place. I know you feel at a complete dead end right now but promise you with lots of support you guys will get through it. Take beautiful BG's offer to come over. Just having another mum there to talk to and help out will be an excellent support.
I dont really now waht to say as I am no expert but I will sent you lots of squishy and lots of calm vibes to you you and Shae and DH.
Keep venting hun. Its actually healthy to get it out rather than keep it all bottled up
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Hey there
to you hun.
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