I try not to over-analyse what I've done wrong, so I'll make my lists short:

Smug:
1. I am letting my DD self-wean from bfing.
2. I resolved not to smack, shout, or use time out, but try to use gentler techniques and understand her frustration/emotions.
3. I let DD come into bed with us whenever she wants.
4. I spend enough time with DD on activities to encourage her to learn new skills and enough time on myself to keep my sanity.
5. I always listen to DD and involve her in conversation.
6. She's very responsible and mature for her age, with a great ability to articulate and use good manners.

Crap:
1. I wish my DD would hurry up and self-wean. I had no idea she'd go this long!
2. I slipped up and smacked her once when she kicked me in the mouth while throwing a car seat tantrum, I shout at her more than I should (but we've made a new no-shouting pact and it's working) and I've used time out recently when she hit me because I couldn't think of any other appropriate discipline.
3. I have been known to put on Play School so I can spend some quality time with BB. (Not doing that now, right now I'm supposed to be working!)
4. I don't always set a good example of a sound relationship with DP.
5. I need to remind myself she's only three because sometimes I expect better behaviour from her than she's capable of.