Thanks for your thoughts everyone.

We are very much attachment parenting. DH feels the same as me when it comes to "sharing" our baby with others. We don't have family here (they are back home in Scotland) which is very much a choice that we have made and are comfortable with. And this might sound really harsh - I don't mean it to - but even if we lived nearer our families, I would feel the same way - unwilling to leave DD with anyone. Our families are at best unsupportive and at worst scathing of the way that we are doing things with her - but that's a whole other post.

I love this way of parenting and have always known this is the way I wanted to do things - I just didn't know there was a name for it. I think that the issue I am describing is MY anxiety around being able to let DD go and do her own thing and become independent from me. Even the thought of sending her to school (which I know is years away yet) gives me the chills. But that is probably because she is still just a baby. I'm sure that when the time comes, we will all be ready.

I just need to chill a bit LOL