Thanks guys, thing is Amber, she's not a baby...she's going to school next year and although I understand that she needs me, she can't have my attention all the time...there's just not enough of me, i'm exhausted. She does need to learn that she can't get everything she wants and straight away. I know it sounds harsh but she's not the only child, I spend so much time dealing with her that Paul and Cass aren't getting enough time with me

N2L I have thought abotu councilling, i'll look into it over the weekend. I think DP is more annoyed that i'm exhausted by the end of the day, i'm falling asleep at 9 and we're not spendign time together, she's really sapping me at the moment.

I try and explain that kids do things like that, writing on walls etc but he's annoyed because she did it because she was angry at him...and she admitted that.

It's all about attention and he thinks that by giving her attention when she displays bad behaviour then i'm giving her what she wants and she'll keep doing it. I thought it was more about "quality" time which is why i've been doing mroe things with her and explaining that to her too, but it's not making any difference.

ETA Rach...yep, i've been spending heaps of time with her because that was the first thing I thought of...colouring, watching movies on my lap, heaps of cuddles etc...

By the soudns of it it is a stage as well...so I guess now it's really important to establish that lying is unnacceptable