DD2 help :(

[Ashlee]

I'm on both sides of the fence here.

On one hand, you've taken G out of her comfort zone so that's a big thing for her little brain to comprehend. On the other, lying is absolutely not ok. Blake has been trying to get away with it for months, but pre-school are very onto it. We have a daily communication book and they are working very hard on his behaviour, alongside me. We all tell him he needs to make "good choices" and that I know everything that goes on. Also, if he tells the truth he will be in less trouble than if he lied. It really does seem to be working, consistency is key and everyone needs to get on board. I think you and big G need to sit down and formulate a disciplinary/reward system for all 3, and then sit down as a family and discuss them - and a routine that's flexible but still structured. We've done that and it's helped immensly.

Big G also needs to spend alone time with G....it will help their relationship. I spend time alone with Lulu and when we do our relationship is better for it.

There is no hard and fast answer, but communication with all parties and a set of guidelines is imperative.

It will work, I promise!

I know first hand how hard it is to blend a family and we still struggle, but it does get better.