But do children really have a choice when so many people treat them differently from the moment they are born? I find it interesting that people want their children to be able to choose their "faith" when they grow up.... but are happy to make the gender role choice for them from day one.

I admit it: I re-inforce gender roles with my children too... but on the whole I at least aspire to neutrality. Most gender roles lay down more limitations than freedoms... and some kids especially end up really struggling with that. I'm quite relieved that my DH supports my views and isn't too much of a "blokey bloke" to admonish my sons for being sensitive and affectionate. I can be as "girly" as the next woman when i choose... but I don't need it to define who I am at all times. Unlike a neighbour of mine who never mows the lawn or is seen covered in dirt in the garden "that's my husbands job"... I mean think about it... imagine if her husband refused to change a nappy or vacuum and said "that's women's work". Hmmm