I am trying to work out the influence of parenting, personality etc on sleep.

Can you do no sleep training, not even 'gentle' methods, and have your child learn to fall asleep without alot of assistance, and sleep overnight for long periods?

If you have more than one child, are their sleep patterns similar?

When DS was young, he slept more than DD ever did, but over time he is becoming more and more like DD. I am questioning whether it is what we are doing, or not doing, or whether my kids are always going to need little sleep and need assistance.

i would like to get DS to sleep in the side car cot (rather than in the main bed), but am floundering in how to do it, without a fight which i don't want and don't have the energy for. He has a hammock, but it is starting to become unsafe for him. He doesn't feed non-stop overnight, but does like contact with one of us. I like to keep kids in my room while they are still feeding overnight, but then would like him to move into a room with DD.

Although it can be difficult to get DD to bed and sleep at night, she sleeps well overnight now. I didn't do sleep training with her, except for the Pantley Pull Off thingy to stop the all night feeding at around 10 months. DD slept her first 5 hour stint at 15 months, night weaned a little later (probably pregnancy induced) and largely slept overnight by 18 months. I think this was because we didn't push changes, but made them when she seemed to be ready.

But sometimes i question if whatever i am doing, or not doing, is not letting my kids sleep earlier.

Any advice, suggestions would be appreciated.