Is it selfish to want a big family if you aren't rich?

[Phteven]

I don't think it's selfish wanting a big family.
Money and material objects aren't going to make you happy (although I'd rather be sobbing in my porsche than in a kia ;p) and if you know that and you don't want 'things' then IMO you're already ahead of those people who define themselves by what they own.
I've got a pretty big family and I wouldn't swap any of my siblings for a flat screen TV (hmmmm maybe my little brother - jkz hehehe). It's heaps of fun having a big family and when I compare the extra material benefits I might have had growing up if I had less siblings against the benefits to me, as an adult, the big family wins. Also it's great for my children, they have oodles of cousins (and second cousins) and we arrange holidays together that are just awesome. Over the summer holidays we have rented a row of flats at the beach for all our families for a fortnight. I feel sorry for the neighbours because en masse we are loud lol.
Another benefit is that I know that if I'm in trouble that there are a bunch of people out there who have my back and it's nice to know that.

I love being home. I can't imagine going back to work. It's way more fun taking the boys out for babychinos lol. And when Imran is at school next year I can have an affair with my tennis instructor *makes mental note - book tennis lessons*

ETA - No need for a van for a big family. We've recently test driven the Audi Q7 and the Volvo CX 90. They are both awesome cars that fit 7 people in comfort.