I stopped feeding Liebs at night at around 9-10m as he wasn't feeding back to sleep, wasn't hungry, was just up every half hour.
I laid him on his tummy on my tummy/chest, so his head was on my heart. It seemed to help. I was in a camp bed at the time, on Liebling's bedroom floor, so couldn't roll around, so just had my arms around him and we slept better, if not well. Never well with Liebling.
Misty ~ thats why i don't want/not expecting miracles. I will be happy for just a 3hr stretch. I think its starting to take a toll on her now too...she has bags under her eyes. I feel that she is suffering for not sleeping. its not just for my benefit, its for hers too.
stopping bf is my absolute last resort. and even then I dont think I will do it. Unless it destorys me I will keep going. I think I will feel worse if i stop. even though it is causing me pain now. i think the tiredness is adding to that. so wont make any decisions until after I know that isn't a factor.
I will take her to the doc on Monday, just to get checked over and see if there isn't something else there... the other day I smelt something, that infection smell you get. the smell of earrings (like dried whitecells). I couldn't work out where it was coming from, her or me, or was just old food on her top (lol dont i sound like a great mum =p), her necklace... I dont know but something smelt wrong. wouldn't hurt to get her checked anyway.
forshelby ~ thankyou, never thought to offer water instead of bm at night
MD ~ yea i will take her on Monday. no point with a "dream feed" because she wakes up then anyway. that is the wake up that i do feed her though, rather than try and resettle without feeding. interesting about what foods to offer. we just give her a little bit of everything, including butter etc.. basically whatever we have. and we only ever use fullcream stuff. atm, we sleep in the dark. we use to have a nightlight, but was only for my benefit while i was still working it all out, now i can attach her in the dark i dont use it. might be worth using a nightlight again. do you think she wakes up and freaks out because she can't see?
TFB ~ maybe i will settle her to sleep on me like that then try to t/f her to the bed?
well... last night, i did my normal bedtime routine. she fed, feel asleep and was settled in the cot, all within 10minutes!!!! =O normally takes over an hour!! I couldn't believe it. I didn't know what to do with myself. the feeling of peace and relief and relaxation i had though was amazing, i haven't felt like that for a very long time. (we hadnt changed anything yet). but overnight was the same. woke up every 2hours. only change, the 2 1/2hour screaming/unsettled/will only sleep when being rocked my me in the middle of the night. DH ended up on the couch so we could have the whole bed. not that we used it cause she wouldn't settle, tried painrelief, bf, rocking, patting, singing, nothing worked. then it was every 2 hrs again..
if i get her when she is stiring (before crying) i put her on the boob and she might have 1 suck, and go straight back to sleep, so thats when i started waiting until she was actually crying for me.
she will fall asleep on the boob fine, or if i get out of bed and rock her she will sleep on my sholder, but as soon as i lay her in bed, or even if i lay with her in bed (so she can still feel me next to her) she cries.
I hate to say it, but with regard to the sleeping, she may just not be a sleeper. Chantelle was waking 6-10 a night up until about 11mths old (thats every 1-2hrs). Nothing I could do could change that. She just grew out of it. She now either sleeps through or wakes up once for a drink (because of the hot weather). I did use a variation of CC / CIO / whateer you want to call it with my other three; but it is really hit or miss, it worked brilliantly with Angel and Baz, but with Nate it just made him sooooo much worse, and even at 5yrs he is still a night waker (although he at least doesn't need us to get up with him anymore). I wish I had some helpful advice.
With the breastfeeding. You have done a remarkable job so far. You are absoloutely amazing! Seriously. But you have choices. It IS ok to put yourself first there if you need to. And it may be that if you don't have to cope with BOTH the sleep and the breastfeeding issue, then maybe it might make the stress alieviate a little too? Again Whatever decision you make won't be a an easy one, but you need to know that deciding either way is fine. Both decisions would be made with your DD's best interests at heart and there is absolutely nothing wrong with either. <3
Massive hugs to you hun. We are having the same problem with Miss G and nothing is working. I'm at the point where I have that horrible anxious feeling all day because if how horrible I'm anticipating the nights to be.
Out if curiosity, how does she sleep during the day?
oh my Mel! and you have 2 babies!! I feel like i have nothing to complain about.
a normal nap is 30mins. 75% in the carrier, and 25% laying in bed. the carrier she will fall asleep straight away. if i lay her down i bed I feed her to bed which can take 30mins to and hr... and doesn't work sometimes. she will probably only have 3? naps during the day
She may only need two naps during the day at this age?? It will depend on the baby, Sebastian and chantelle had dropped down to just one day nap, between 30-60mins by that age.
Everything is a million times harder when you are suffering from sleep deprivation. I was happy chantelle would talk a bottle as well as breast, so I could express and DH could get up for at least one of the feeds back to sleep. We also started giving the first feed to bed of the night as a bottle of EMB because she would drink more from the bottle then the boob, and it made her have a longer sleep at that point. Of course this meant I was often up anyway, expressing whilst DH gave the bottle so that there would be another bottle ready to go, but she was settled easier and slept for longer - we ended up doing a combination of breastfeeding and formula later on, because I got sick of expressing; so don't make the mistake of thinking you are restricted to either breastfeeding OR bottlefeeding, it is possible to do both. Although I completely understand that you may not want to introduce the bottle at all.
the more I think about it and what you girls have said, I think something is stopping her sleeping but she wants to sleep. rather than her just not wanting to go to sleep. because she looks tired =( bags and puffy eyes...and that soft cry that is as though she is too tired to make a real one.
most likely pain... but where? she has been doing this for atleast a month, but the last week it has gotten insanely bad, and each night is worse than the one before... would teeth last that long?
yesterday she refused to sleep all day...finally crashed at 630ish in her highchair, i got her and put her in her pjs and went to bed. I thought, yes, for sure she will sleep for a decent stretch after nothing all day! nope. she woke up at 730, settled pretty quickly, DH and I went to bed at 8 (ha 8pm on a sat night!), she woke again at 930. and wouldn't settle. 2hrs later of screaming and me rocking and singing and attempting to feed (she kept biting me). i finally got her settled at 1130.
awake again at 1...then at 330...briefly (think some of this time she was on my boob as we laid down..i cant remember, awake for reals at 430. another 2 hour scream...me rocking and singing, her biting me....we finally went back to bed at 630ish. and awake for the day at 830.
gave her panadol this time in both those screaming matches... i had given her neurofen previous night that didn't make a difference. I dont know if the panadol did...or if she just settled because she was so knocked around.
I can't wait until tomorrow when i can go to a dr...just one more night...one more night.... atleast then i can rule some things out.
My youngest feed 2hrly over night till 2years of age, she gave up all day sleeps by 12minths except the odd one in the carrier. Some babies are just not sleepers.
With the 2 hours of screaming, have you changed yours or her diet, it could be a reaction or wind pains to something she or you are eating. My eldest was a windy baby and would scream for hours till I learnt to give her rose water to help beak up the wind so she could burp or fart it out. Just a thought.
I have no other suggestions or advice Hun. I hope that the doctor has some answers or something for you to try! It sounds brutal the lack if sleep you are both getting
people who say their babies just werent sleepers, were they (the LOs) functioning without the sleep? or do you still feel they needed it they were just good at fighting it? last week i would have agreed and acepted it, she seemed to be ok with the little sleep. but the last few days... its hard to think she is ok.
Big hugs. DD2 did this for 3.5 months It was a huge shock as I don't recall DD1 doing it, or maybe I've just chosen to forget it
Will find a post I wrote awhile ago to Lulu as she too was having issues with her DD3.
In the meantime, add 'glue ear' to your list to ask the GP. I've had a few friends with babies who slept terribly and they had glue ear. Two of them had to get grommets, one of them cleared on their own. Sleep magically returned to normal!
Will BBL but just quickly, teeth can definitely cause that much pain for some babies and often only effects them at night. Laying down causes the pain the increase. Also, when babies are having big growth spurts (outside of WWs too), they struggle with sleep as they're thinking too much and often practicing in their sleep. Sitting, rolling, standing and crawling have caused issues for both my girls (not badly for DD1 though).
it's tough. I'll never forget the hourly wakeups with DD2 night after night. It sucks!
My 2hrly feeder who didn't sleep much in the day functioned without it, she was on the go a lot and didn't show tired signs, till around 7at night when she stated her night sleep. All feeds before midnight she went back in her hammock (cot after 10 months) then all feeds after midnight we coslept.
Even tough she feed 2hrly, she settled quick and feed quick to in about 10minutes. I never turned lights on for night feeds and by 10 months rarely changed nappies during the night. Night nappy went on at feed around 9pm ish.
Though if your little one has been a good sleeper till now, I would get your gp to check and make sure no middle ear etc.
Teeth can go on and on and on with unsettled ness too.
she has had good naps today, both in the carrier, but that is ok.
she hasnt had a bf all day though...i keep offering and she just bites me and wants to run away (she has had solids and water). so im expecting the catch up later. wish i knew what was wrong with my poppet =(
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Whatever decision you make won't be a an easy one, but you need to know that deciding either way is fine. Both decisions would be made with your DD's best interests at heart and there is absolutely nothing wrong with either. <3
It was a huge shock as I don't recall DD1 doing it, or maybe I've just chosen to forget it
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