For those who have children of only one sex

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

No, I've never felt like I'm missing out by not having a girl - in fact, I'm perfectly happy about it. I don't mind if Stormageddon is a boy or a girl, when DH decides we're having another baby (if I haven't gotten bored with waiting and said no more by then). I'd be thrilled to have another little boy. Yes, some of the girl clothes are super cute, but then you have all the girl issues to deal with - I'm happy to stick with boys.

But I wouldn't object to a girl any more - I would have been most upset if Liebling had been a girl.

[Lenny]

I have two boys and that's fine with me. Dh wanted a girl, but not enough to let me have 3 children.
I would be happy with 3 (or 4 ) boys, but that's just me and perhaps after TTC for so long i was just thrilled to have children.
I don't know what it's like to have a girl and probably never will, but i don't feel any sadness at all about that.

We're all different and have different 'pictures' of how we see our family. I think 2 boys is great - for me. It's ok if it's not for everyone.

[wysiwyg]

That people could consider my daughters anything other than perfect purely due to their sex makes me angry.

I totally agree with this (ok I do have one of each but prior to DS got all sorts of strange comments, from DD's ultrasound where the technician said to DH "and how do you feel about having a girl - very pointedly - to when we found out about DS saying to DH the technician saying that must make you really happy). It really does puzzle me as to why people so often assume you must have a desire to have one of each, and that women will want daughters and men will want sons - granted for some that is how it is, but as Lenny eleqountely put it

We're all different and have different 'pictures' of how we see our family. I think 2 boys is great - for me. It's ok if it's not for everyone.

[Nai]

I have 2 girls and couldn't be happier. I am an only child but always wanted a sister so my girls have what I always wished for. Dp loves it too, he has always been better at relating to girls than boys so he is happy. He gets the try for a boy comments and responds with " why would I want to do that "

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

If it helps those longing for girls - my son is my mini-Gok. We go shopping together, he gets a comic we can read together and I get a dress my son has found for me. Which, when I try it on (initially just to please DS, now cos it will look fab) it is invariably better than the dress I found and wanted to buy. He loves dressing me up and accessorising me, it's better than Barbie! Yes, I have bought a couple of ballgowns recently, nothing wrong with that.

[Astrid]

Two girls here and not going for any more kids. I am fine with it, if I had to choose boys or girls, then I would choose girls (not sure why, did not even know I had a preference till I fell pregnant). My family was quite mixed with both genders, half siblings etc. DH only has one brother.

I think MIL is disappointed that there are no boys (even though she only had boys herself, you think she would have loved a granddaughter). DH is pretty good about it, they are healthy and that is what matters most of the time. He does express at times not being able to do the boy things. Some other fathers can be so mean about it. Many times he has gotten "aren't you disappointed to not have a son?", makes him pretty angry. I feel a pang for him not having a son.

[RhiChiChi]

I only have DD and I would like a boy, pigeon pair as they say, more for my DH than me and that we probably won't go back for a third if we are lucky enough to even have another baby. BUT, I think for my DD sake, the dynamics of her age and if we were to have a son now, I think it would be like raising two only children - ITMS? My DD always goes on about me having another baby & it is always a girl - now I don't know if that is b/c she is a girl, a girly girl *shrugs* but she does have two very close boys that she is friends with at creche. I'd like to think that I would be content with whatever gender my next baby will be, but only time will tell.

[AnnaBelle]

A great thread ...here goes ...I have 2 boys and I am really happy with the fact I have 2 sons.
I think if I had 2 daughters I would definately have felt some disappointment and would have wanted to try again
for a son without question ...
But the urge to have a third after having two sons is not as strong.
It is intersting to ask myself why I feel this way and I can only think that it is because of my own family
dynamic 3 girls - who all pleaded for our mum and dad to have a brother for us (which never happened)
Its funny but if we had a third I would be over the moon to have a daughter !!
But at the same time would welcome another baby boy with joy !!
Hmmm Intersting

[My Three Sons]

Funny you mention sympathy! I find it ironic and slightly weird that people can be sympathetic to a man without a son................but as a woman without a daughter I get buckleys sympathy and usually just harsh judgement if Im honest about my yearning for a girl. IMO its the same thing! Especially when I feel society puts such a huge prize on the mother-daughter relationship.

Your right Kels, in the end you will be happy with your baby! I love my boys dearly, especially my youngest who I suffered pretty severe gender disappointment with while I was pregnant. He's even probably the one Im closest to! Those of us who feel disappointed at lost opportunities (either badly or mildly) arent monsters who dont love their kids, quite the opposite.

So true.
Yep... i long for a daughter. I LOVE my boys, they are awesome. But i have a very close bond with my mother and i would have liked the chance at least to have a bond like that with my daughter. My boys are fantastic, but in society today, once they are married, it is generally the wifes family that they gravitate towards more. I know that may not be the case, but who knows. After my 2nd, i had no GD at all. It was when i had my 3rd (a surprise, but one i wanted very much) that GD hit hard- knowing i would never have a daughter. I am sure though it would have been the same if i had 3 girls for me. If i could have picked, i would have had 2 boys then a girl, but oh well.

[AnnaBelle]

Hmm..My 3 sons are you predicting my future???
Hey there is hope - I am a daughter and I love my husband's Mum more than anything
she has a lot of qualities that I wish my own Mum had - and we definately gravitate more
to DH's family
xo
Anna

[Freya]

So true.
Yep... i long for a daughter. I LOVE my boys, they are awesome. But i have a very close bond with my mother and i would have liked the chance at least to have a bond like that with my daughter. My boys are fantastic, but in society today, once they are married, it is generally the wifes family that they gravitate towards more. I know that may not be the case, but who knows. After my 2nd, i had no GD at all. It was when i had my 3rd (a surprise, but one i wanted very much) that GD hit hard- knowing i would never have a daughter. I am sure though it would have been the same if i had 3 girls for me. If i could have picked, i would have had 2 boys then a girl, but oh well.

I agree with you that generally in society the wife's family get more. That said, in my life its different; Im closer with my inlaws than my own parents but that is mostly due to neccesity. My parents are useless so my inlaws stepped into the dominant grandparent role (well as dominant as they can be when we always live 1000's of km away). My MIL was there when my first child was born, she is the person I discuss anything with. If my own mother was the kind of mother every woman should have it probably would have been different BUT I do love my inlaws so they probably would have been nearly equal.

I guess its bad to say but I can only hope one or two of my boys marry girls whose mothers suck!