Thinking about this makes me really sad. I think before we had children, I believed that having children would bring this closeness that would be gained from meeting people when I was pregnant, making new couple friends going through the same. Meeting new parents at playgroup, school, and have this disney like friendships and group. I even believed that it would bring family together.
In reality, having our first child seem to push us out of our then current 'village'. When she was born I felt so isolated and alone. The few I had met whilst pregnant didn't become friends and slowly old friendships drifted away. Sure the long term friends are there, but the friendship is different and I honestly don't think they are as close as they once were.
Family wise, we are more distant from the extended family then ever before. I thought change would happen, closer relationship with the mother in law, that we would have that disney relationship. But I was wrong.
In reality, our village is us (dh, me, our children), two friends (who happened to be married to each other, so one family), the in laws and dh's aunt and uncle, and one of my aunts and a cousin. Even then it's a distant village that is widespread.