That's the thing though. I feel like if I keep putting off making some changes to our daily routine/ night rituals then it'll never get better. Or is that just my tired lady fog confusing me? It doesn't help that DP is applying more and more pressure for me to get the housework in order. I know his comments come from his ignorance. He thinks I should just put DS down, run around crazily trying to do chores while he screams, then pick up where I left off with him. He ignores the fact that if I let DS cry for more than a few mins he gets totally worked up, and is impossible to settle. He also doesn't factor in sleep deprivation and stress.
I found if i tried to changed things, i became more stressed when it didnt work or when the crying continued...
The housework thing, i hear you on, 2nd time around DH gets it, but still there are days where the eyebrows are raised.

Do you have a sling? people use to say this to me all the time and i didnt try it properly with DD1 and i wish i did, you move differently but folding washing and making beds and picking p bits and vacuuming can be done really easily when baby wearing.
I clean the kitchen with DD2 in the bumbo on the bench so she can see me and she has some things to touch and feel to keep her interested and i talk to her about what i am doing.
I clean the girls bedrooms with her on the bed and she watches the fan go round. Mopping i do when she sleeps (so sometimes i have to miss it for a day or two)

No mother doesnt translate to slave DH has to do stuff when he comes in... i use to huff very loudly about doing things when he was watching TV and then would just start telling him things that he could do to help so we could sit together - 'you know, if YOu do the dishes when i am bathing the girls, we can BOTH sit down together when they are in bed' it took a while, but slowly got through

ETA Snap Sloane!