FWIW I have read SOS and gleaned a few titbits of useful info. I also discarded a lot of what she said. I think we all do this as we read.

I think parenting books are inherently flawed because they seem to suggest parenting can be 'taught' (maybe not all parenting books are like this, but the concept bothers me).

Babies do not need to be 'fixed'. Babies do not need a routine and they do not have sleep problems.

In our society though (which is not set up for attachment parenting) many parents need a solution, many parents need a routine and many parents have sleep problems (i.e. not enough!)

The issue is actually the way we as a community and society view babies - which is not really as an individual with specific needs and desires, but rather as a collective identity 'baby' which can be trained and taught to fit into a mold of a 'good baby' (which in turn suggests we are 'good parents'). ETA: It also means there is little room for the baby who is colicky, unsettled and needs a lot of attention, and little support for the mums who have to suffer through this.

I don't know how we can change this, but in the meantime I think we need to support all mums and bubs, because we're all just trying our best.