I dunno MadB The number of times I've been told I'm making a rod in my back by feeding/rocking/cuddling DD to sleep!! It's like, people, I'm pretty sure only *I* can decide what will or will not inconvenience me. If I'm happy to do it then clearly I'm not. And to me, spending 10 minutes feeding DD to sleep peacefully and happily certainly trumps hours upon hours of stressful (for both of us) 'settling'. I think parents have way too much pressure to be able to say, "oh, my son self settles and sleeps through the night!" Who cares? It really shouldn't matter, it certainly doesn't to me. Sure, I feel better after a 10 hour sleep, but I'm not going to put unnecessary pressure on myself or DD to 'make' it happen. My DD slept through the night and has eveb settled herself once or twice. I was told over and over that it's all good and well having this attitude when my baby sleeps. Well! Since DD got her brace, she wakes screaming all through the night, every couple of hours so far. Yeah, I'm pretty exhausted...but it won't be like this forever. If anything it makes me feel even more strongly that feeding/rocking to sleep is right for our family; it's easy, peaceful, and most importantly, stress-free.