Prama,

The book describes the types of cries in great detail that actually makes sense- for example, "call out" crying is where they shout out, stop, shout out, stop- it's probably the main one I hear my DD do if she wakes up early in the night. The pause is where she's listening to see if anyone is coming.

The thing is, I tend to go in to her no matter what type of cry she's doing. I guess I'm still teaching her to rely on me in a way, but I personally don't believe in letting her work through it like that all on her own. If she can work through it with me to help her, then apply it herself next time, I think that's better. That's what's been happening for us so far. Occasionally she'll wake at about four am, do the calling out cry for three or four minutes, then go straight back to sleep. She's not even remotely distressed when she's doing it- you can hear how sleepy she is, and she's just checking to see if anyone might be around to help her go back to sleep. But she doesn't need help anymore.