Thanks Claire. Some of the stuff you have said from the book (I haven't read it) does make sense and I can see how it can be useful, but I'm with you, I don't agree with the leaving them to cry bit. Studies have shown that this is bad for baby, and it just doesn't sit right with me at all. Seems like she has some good suggestions in there about some other things though. Especially how to get baby to know what you want from them.