Hi Teni,

Why not keep the invite fairly simple, ours read "A baby girl is on the way, so let's celebrate before the big day". It is a celebration of your bub, and that in no way is forgetting about Ianto, I think keep the invite simple and do something special on the day to celebrate Ianto too. What about maybe having a wishing well at your shower with some info about Bonnie babes and a personal note about Ianto with all donations going to them etc. That way ppl can still bring gifts for cookie, you've included your little man Ianto in the day and ppl can donate to Bonnie babes as well. You could even say a little something about your special boy and his new baby brother or sister on the day if you like.
Do whatever is going to make you happy hun, that's what's important!!!!